Abstinence

(1Cor. 7:1) “Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2, nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.

Christian purity before marriage:

Christian, the very fact that you're reading this article, leads me to believe that you want to know what God's word says on this important subject of Abstinence. Just the mention of the word "abstinence" will bring sneering and mocking from those in this world around us. But let's be reminded that this mocking would not have taken place 100 years ago. No, our society has not always been so immoral and loose! Our culture once honored God's Word and obeyed God's principles. Our society years ago esteemed Sexual Abstinence before marriage. Then gradually more and more people in our society started doubting God's Word and then stopped believing and practicing God's Word. Over time our society has developed into an immoral society. But God is not mocked, we, as a society, have reaped what we've sown. Sexually transmitted diseases are showing up in teens and having lasting, permanent and sometimes fatal results. The divorce rate is over 50 %, leaving behind a trail of broken families and ruined lives. Many of the failures and problems of our modern society can be traced right back to abandoning God's plan for men and women, beginning with Abstinence. You see, in God's plan, unmarried men and unmarried women may have friendships without physical relationships, but once they cross the line from a friendship relationship to physical relationship, they have committed sin.

God has not been silent about this issue of Abstinence before marriage! God has also not been vague when He has spoken about this subject in His Word. Please read the following Bible passages:

1Corinthians 7:1 "Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman."

Ephesians 5:3 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints;

1Corinthians 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

2Timothy, 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts;

Could it be any clearer? Don't touch! Don't fornicate (sex outside of marriage)!

Don't commit immorality!
You should agree, God is Clear and there is absolutely no grey areas in God's teaching on remaining sexually inactive before marriage. Granted, the Christian in this world faces some serious opposition in society, but face it we must. The world and more than likely people you know are saying, "Hey, everybody is doing it!" Well, everybody except Christians that are truly sold out to serve and obey Jesus Christ. Yes, even Christians have swallowed the lie of the Devil, "it's OK, because everybody is doing it." No, it's not OK! The Bible says "flee sexual immorality", "flee youthful lust"! I see no room in God's Word for lingering around or testing out sexual immorality do you? Christians that try to convince themselves that God will permit sexual activity outside of marriage have ignored God's Word and have deceived themselves! No means No! And God says NO to sex before and outside of marriage!

Some Christians have believed the lie of the Devil and sinful men that says, "so long as you don't go "all the way", it's not sexual sin! This kind of argument may work with worldly Christians and unbelievers, but to those wanting to do the will of God and to those who know what God's Word says, this argument and rational goes against God's written and spoken Word. For those who want to obey God, for those who want to please God, understand, God even forbids sexual touching, sometimes called petting. God also forbids any touching that arouses sexually. 1 Cor. 7:1, "It is good for a man not to touch a woman." The word touches here in the Greek means, "to fasten one self" or "to kindle a fire". This word implies touching that is clinging; touching that is sexual, thus "kindling the fire." Unmarried people should NOT allow anyone to touch them in such a way that a fire is started emotionally, hormonally, or sexually.

Let's get specific! Some people may hold hands, but can they just stop there? Once you start holding on, is that enough? God has not created our bodies to start and stop on a dime sexually . Yet young (and not so young ) people foolishly convince themselves, "Oh I can stop when things begin to go to far." To many have learned that this is NOT true. The more involved a fire is, the more difficult it is to extinguish. Hand holding can lead to arms around the waste, then to kissing, then to petting, then to... you get the picture! Too many Christians disobey God by allowing emotional and hormonal fires to build up even though they stop short of sexual intercourse! Those that do this are still sinning before God and they have also sinned against the person they were with. Make no mistake about this. Don't rationalize it a way! Don't lean upon unbiblical interpretations of God's Word! Don't lean upon the World's standards! To please God is to Obey His Word! Outside of marriage: Don't touch sexual! Don't arouse sexual!

Let's get extremely practical here. Learn what God is saying in 1Cor. 7, "don't touch", "don't light the fire", "don't be clinging in a sexual way." God has drawn the line in His Word. You need to draw the same line in your heart and mind. This is what the line looks like: Friendship with Purity... don't cross that line. Don't let fires start! If you do, you've crossed the line.